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Discipline is one of the most relevant urgent challenges facing leadership at every level and for a variety of reasons.

School discipline, as well as discipline in other areas of society, has become a controversial topic.
Discipline is almost a dirty word. It is not, but the consequences of indiscipline are more serious than many recognise.

Almighty God has established an amazing principle with regard to discipline. The man whom Almighty God disciplines is blessed.

There is a difference between being disciplined and being punished, but the individual who refuses discipline will end up being punished in some form.

There is another person whom Almighty God blesses. He happens to be the man who is taught from God’s law.

Notice how discipline comes before teaching. That requires to be taught in every teacher’s training college. This is one reason why discipline is so vital and essential. This principle has almost been reversed over these past years.

Without discipline there can be no real teaching. When discipline is abandoned, teaching ceases. If a teacher cannot exercise discipline, he cannot really teach.

God goes even further. He will not attempt to teach those who refuse discipline. That depicts and indicates just how serious a matter this has become.

When Jesus Christ was teaching, the crowds gathered to hear Him. He had no problem with discipline.

When Jesus was about to feed the hungry, He had them sit down in an orderly manner. Jesus Christ had no time for chaos, and when he called men he called them to discipleship which is exactly the same word and comes from the Greek for mathematics. That is how exact and precise discipline has to be at times.

Imagine an indisciplined army going off to war. Soon there would be many casualties. That is what we are tragically witnessing in our society in these present days in so many different fields, as man tried to go it alone without God.

Submitting Himself to the authority of His Father resulted in Jesus’ authoritative teaching and orderly activity. Discipline does not limit nor restrict. It frees releases and liberates. The football match is best played when the lines are visible and specific, and when the ball goes out of play the game has to stop.

When Paul spoke to those who realised how needy they were, he had no trouble. It was when he was confronted with the philosophers and rebels who thought they could get on without God that problems exploded.

God sees when man tries to go his own way and struggle on without His direction and guidance.

He knows the thoughts of man and He knows that they are futile. The Psalmist explains that in clear distinct terms.

God knows what He is talking about.

Sandy Shaw

By: Sandy Shaw

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Sandy Shaw is Pastor of Nairn Christian Fellowship, Chaplain at Inverness Prison, and Nairn Academy, and serves on The Children’s Panel in Scotland, and has travelled extensively over these past years teaching, speaking, in America, Canada, South Africa, Australia, making 12 visits to Israel conducting Tours and Pilgrimages, and most recently in Uganda and Kenya, ministering at Pastors and Leaders Seminars, in the poor areas surrounding Kampala, Nairobi, Mombasa and Kisumu.He broadcasts regularly on WSHO radio out of New Orleans, and writes a weekly commentary at http://www.studylight.org entitled “Word from Scotland” on various biblical themes, as well as a weekly newspaper column.His M.A. and B.D. degrees are from The University of Edinburgh, and he continues to run and exercise regularly to maintain a level of physical fitness.Sandy Shaw
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An Issue of Mixed Messages

How can something as prevalent, accepted, and accessible in our society as drinking alcohol be so harmful, unhealthy, AND illegal when consumed at or slightly above moderate intake levels? The simple asking of this question immediately uncovers a number of issues, one of which is the mixed messages that exist in our society about drinking alcohol.

The Accessibility and Acceptability of Alcohol

On the one hand, consider the thousands upon thousands of bars and taverns in the United States. Now add to this list the restaurants, night clubs, sporting events, festivals, state fairs, hotels, casinos, carnivals, etc. where alcoholic beverages are regularly served. Moreover, add the grocery stores, liquor stores, beverage stores, the Convenient Food Marts, the 7/11 stores, and the state stores where an adult can legally purchase as many bottles, cans, and/or cases of alcoholic beverages as he or she desires.

Is Drinking Alcohol Cool?

Not only is alcohol extremely accessible in our society but there are also a number of factors that reinforce the idea that drinking alcohol is “cool.” For instance, consider beer advertisements and commercials on TV. Indeed, it can be argued that some of the most memorable, funniest, and “best” commercials and advertisements on TV have been those that were associated with drinking beer. To push the point further, why would beer manufacturers spend millions of dollars for a commercial during the Super Bowl if this expenditure did not lead to more sales? From a slightly different perspective, consider professional athletes and movie stars who, by their actions and advertisements, reinforce the idea that drinking alcohol is “cool.”

Religious Rituals and Cultural Traditions

When religious rituals that make use of alcohol, cultural traditions that encourage drinking alcohol, special events and holidays that are associated with drinking alcohol, and the increasing popularity of adding alcohol to food for enhanced flavor–when all of these are factored into the equation, it becomes obvious that alcohol is deeply ingrained in our society. The point: when people are surrounded with alcohol and bombarded by events, traditions, holidays, and advertisements that are alcohol-related, it becomes part of their socialization process that in turn makes it easier to simply accept that they should drink alcohol if they are to “fit in” and become members of our society.

Alcohol Abuse and Drinking While Driving

If the prevalence, acceptability, and accessibility of alcohol represent the one side of the coin regarding the mixed messages in our society, then the dangerousness, unhealthiness, and illegality represents the other. Indeed, consider the numerous negative and harmful messages and statistics associated with alcohol abuse and drinking while driving that we have heard from the medical community, federal government, police, politicians, organizations such as MADD, and school and college administrators.

Mixed Messages and Their Consequences

When something like alcohol use is so intimately ingrained in the fabric of our society, it becomes extremely difficult to significantly alter its use and abuse in a comprehensive and beneficial manner. I assert that one of the consequences of the mixed messages about alcohol use and abuse in our society it that it becomes extremely difficult for many individuals, especially our youth, to realistically see the destructive, unhealthy, and sometimes fatal aspects of alcohol abuse.

The Influence of the Judicial System

Unfortunately, the judicial system and the ways in which it has dealt with alcohol-related offenses is another example of the mixed messages in our society about alcohol. For instance, until very recently, people who have received multiple DUIs have, in many instances, simply received a “slap on the wrist” for their alcohol-related behavior.

Fortunately, some states are becoming more reality and accountability-based and are making it a felony when a person receives his or her 4th DUI within a ten-year period. In Minnesota, for instance, this sentence includes three years in prison and a fine of not less than $14,000.00.

Incarceration AND Treatment

Sending people to jail for alcohol-related offenses, however, is not a viable “solution” unless the person receives help for his or her alcohol problem while incarcerated. True, the offending person is “off the streets” while incarcerated. When the jail or prison sentence is completed, however, a person who has received alcoholism treatment while incarcerated is more likely to become a responsible person who doesn’t continue to drink while driving and less likely to become a repeat offender.

Responsible Behavior

I am not necessarily disagreeing with those who preach “responsible behavior” regarding drinking. The bottom line, however, is one’s definition of “responsible behavior.” Let me explain. Let’s say that I have a lake that is used for swimming and that for whatever reason, hundreds of snapping turtles have populated this lake. Some people may say that “responsible behavior” in this example consists of warning all swimmers about the turtles and telling them to “be careful” while swimming. Others with a different point of view, however, might say that “responsible behavior” in this instance means warning the swimmers about the turtles, telling them to be careful while swimming, AND, at the same time, significantly reducing the turtle population so that there is less chance that the swimmers will get bit.

What Can Be Done?

If our society is more enlightened and more aware of the health hazards, fatalities, and destructive consequences of alcohol abuse and alcoholism, then why don’t we practice “responsible behavior” and make alcohol less available, less advertised, less glamorized, and less “cool” while at the same time increasing the advertisements, commercials, and public service messages that emphasize healthy and safe alcohol-free activities and lifestyles?

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By: Dennis Soinski

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Denny Soinski, Ph.D, writes about alcoholism essentials and news, alcohol addiction, alcohol testing, alcohol rehab details, alcoholism, alcohol recovery, alcohol treatment, and alcohol rehab. For more info, please visit addiction info and treatment right away!

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What is creativity? Have you ever heard someone say that person is creative? Do we really understand what a creative person is? Some of those we call creative do not see themselves as creative? Others we do not see as creative may actually be? We do not consider people who are smart creative, yet someone who is creative could also theoretically be a smart individual. But somehow the society norm has mixed the definitions somewhat? Someone who is smart uses their knowledge to solve problems is often considered a creative problem solver but not particularly creative. If they solve a very important problem, we often elevate them to the brilliant status. Creative is reserved for lesser in the minds of society for some reason?

Someone who is creative can be considered to be a dreamer or artist of some type. Often a person we label as creative is merely a person we do not understand or who lives an alternative lifestyle to the social norm or perhaps is somewhat off in our perceptions of what people should be like. Creative people or those we call creative are not necessarily the people we call doers or achievers, not because they are not achievers, but rather because they are not blazing the trail to be awarded with items of acceptance. Such things are simply not important to them. Yet creative people often are doing something and pursuing it with greater vigor than the rest of us, as they are doing it for themselves and in doing so are more fulfilled than the rest of us. That would appear to be a smart way to live.

It is interesting that we do not always consider creative people smart, yet we know those who are musically inclined are smart or they would not be able to what they do. In fact artists are often much smarter than the rest of us. Those famous artists in our past periods whether it sculpture, painting or symphony are always called brilliant or geniuses, but never merely smart.

Many believe that being smart is someone who has one, two, maybe three areas of knowledge memorized or a few piece of paper stating so and can tell you anything about those subjects. This of course is our societal definition of a smart human. We are told education makes us smart but even Calvin Coolidge warns us of educated derelicts.

The creative problem solver or the sculptor who turns nothing into something, that is not only a creative person, fore that person is all of these things; creative, smart, brilliant and a genius? Yet we in the Western World are so quick to label each person, as we thrust him or her into a definitional category and right or wrong we reduce their value to the whole in doing so. I wonder why we do that? Maybe you are a creative person and you can tell us; think on it.

By: Lance Winslow

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How many people come through life battling rejection issues?

How many people rebel against Societies Expectations?

Growing up in a time when what other people thought of you was the barometer of how you saw yourself; I soon learn’t to hide behind a wall of fat. My body underwent changes which were not pretty to my eye, let alone other people. I rejected myself continually.

The seeds of personal discontent had been sown long ago when my first nick name of “Porky” became a form of emotional and mental abuse. The tirade continued for many years until an unforeseen event occurred which shattered any semblance of normality in my life.

I was kicked out of home as a result of bucking up to the bully who continually and subversively attacked me as a result of being the fat ugly duckling of the family.

It’s fascinating to look back and see the triggers which change our known environment. You guessed it this was the catalyst when my body actually dropped weight so naturally and easily, I didn’t even realize it as happening until someone actually commented on my changed appearance.

Suddenly I was asked to participate in a local pageant as a floral queen.

Me? Couldn’t believe it, I had the absolute best fun and boy how I loved the positive attention. Gracing the front page over and over of the local newspaper I was bemused at the sudden attention I received. Then came a proposal out of the blue, I was asked to participate in the Miss Australia quest.

Now this is where the stumble came in. Falling back into patterns of not being good enough and equally wanting to “please” the person who supposedly loved me, I declined the invitation.

Crying myself to sleep over the following 2weeks from the inner knowing I had made a decision which I didn’t have the strength, courage, commitment and willpower to fight, a subconscious link was forged to correct this situation within my psyche.

Duhhhhh! My Soul was certainly setting me up for a massive journey of healing to value me and my worth. Years later it is fantastic to know I base all decisions on what I must do for me in order to walk the path I am born.

No longer do I live as a pattern of society’s expectations mindset.

The force of liberation is here.

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One thing that I think bothers me more than anything else in the world is the fact that so much of the population is very self-centered. We live in a very selfish society. I personally believe this is in part due to our desire to do more, get ahead and be better in life. This ambition is a good thing; it is what drives many to success. However, it is also the makings for a somewhat selfish society. We’re always looking out for Number One, as the saying goes.

This is not a personal rant or a game of “I’m holier than thou” but instead a realistic observation of a fact of life today. This is not to point fingers or call names and say that everyone is like this or that those that are, behave this way 100% of the time. Instead, I wanted to take these observations and point them out along with some tips for how you can avoid the stress and pain that this selfish behavior often causes in life.

I even see the same things when I look at myself from time to time. Often when I get upset with someone it is because of something they have done to me. I don’t typically stop to think about why they did it or what might be happening in their lives. Instead, I focus solely on the fact that they have hurt me or wronged me in some way and I retaliate in anger, sadness or frustration.

Look back at some of the times in your life that you have been angry or upset. Think also on the times when you have been rude, mean or uncaring to someone else. How many of these situations can you relate to selfish thinking and behaviors? Have you ever disappointed your children because there was something else that you wanted to do instead? Have you ever lied to your spouse because you were afraid they would be angry at you and it only made it worse when they lie was uncovered?

What about when you are cut off in traffic by the guy in the BMW on his cell phone who’s late for an important meeting? Or when someone races to get in line ahead of you at the grocery store with their cartload of items when you have only a small basket? All around us, people make decisions that are inconsiderate to others, usually because they are thinking only of themselves.

Think about two siblings growing up together. It’s a fact that all siblings fight at some point and some fight quite often. Now look at some of the situations under which children fight.

Not sharing toys

Jealousy

For parent’s attention

Because someone feels “slighted” Most of the reasons that siblings become angry and upset with one another boil down to selfish reasons. Someone thinks mom loves the other one better, someone doesn’t want to share his new toy, someone thinks the other gets more, etc. Many of us never outgrow this behavior and we see it in adults every day.

I can go on giving examples all day but I think you get the idea. The point is how can you separate yourself from this? We simply can’t go around trying to make people the way that we want them to be and if we try, we only cause ourselves more stress and heartache (and you might just lose some friends along the way.)

So what can you do? First, you need to recognize that the single, one and only person in the entire world that you have control over is yourself. Look at your own life and ways that you can change and be a better example in your world and your daily life.

Next, if you are a parent, you need to recognize that your children will mimic your behaviors. Teach them the right ways by showing and when you make mistakes, talk with them about it. Explain to them that no one is perfect and that they will have to be accepting and understanding when people sometimes let them down- even their parents.

Third, it is important to learn how to respond to people that you encounter who treat you unfairly, rudely or even those that physically or emotionally harm you. You can’t control what people do to you but you can control how you respond to it. You should never have to take abuse of any sort but there are some things we can take in stride, such as the stranger in the market or the minivan on your bumper in evening traffic giving you a serious case of road rage.

You can CHOOSE not to respond back in the same way that selfish people treat you. You can choose to ignore it, or to respond in kindness or in some cases, you can even learn from it. We also need to learn to be a bit more compassionate toward others, even those that we don’t know. If someone gives you attitude for no apparent reason, sure it might make you mad or even hurt your feelings. You may feel the urge to retaliate but instead you can choose to take a different approach.

You can choose to break the cycle and separate yourself from this type of poor attitude and behavior. Maybe that person is having a bad day, maybe they have an anger problem or maybe they are just a hateful person, but you don’t have to let their poor attitude rub off on you. Take it in stride, laugh it off, ignore it or even say a prayer for them if you are a religious person and then go on with your life without letting one person ruin your day!

By: Lisa A Mason

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Lisa Mason is a freelance writer with a specialty in Internet content and SEO articles. She has written thousands of articles, hundreds of ebooks and thousands of website pages and related content. She has also authored her own books and works as a consultant to other writers, Internet marketers and Internet businesses.Lisa Mason, Professional wordsmith for hire: gamer, wife, mother, entrepreneur, published poet, co-owner of game guides company (http://www.liti4.com), public speaker and Internet business consultant. You can learn more or follow Lisa’s blog from her website: http://www.freelancewriter4hire.com

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e question: Is the power of persuasion good or bad for society? It’s a question worth answering, because your world is under assault from an unprecedented number of propagandists for hire and marketing mavens whose only ethic is ‘what the market will bear.’

Some months ago, I read an article titled ?Art and Propaganda? in the online edition of The Nation, and found it to be insightful, challenging, and mildly persuasive, at least in part.

It?s a terrific article, and worth the read. Milton Glaser, a Fulbright scholar and one of America?s most celebrated designers, wrote, ? The mind?s ability to alter itself is the source of human freedom. Information expands the capacity of the mind to change. Persuasion limits that capacity. Beliefs must be held lightly, because certainty is often the enemy of truth.” This has been on my mind for awhile. I support much of what was said. But it all falls apart for me when it comes to one of his core ideas.

Glaser writes that ?Persuading us robs us of our ability to observe things for ourselves.? No, sorry, it (persuasion) does not. It can?t do anything. It is but a tool, a method, a means to an end. It is amoral, meaning it can be used by anyone for any purpose, ethical or not. At best, the use of persuasive communication increases your odds of a successful outcome. But the use of persuasive communication comes with no guarantee. Persuasive skill is naught but a construct of human imagination and ingenuity applied to an outcome, and matched against the formidable and very human capacity to think, to question, to challenge and arrive at one?s own conclusions, I don?t think it stands a chance. Not even a little one.

The only thing that robs us of our ability to observe for ourselves is our failure to think for ourselves about information presented to us. And yes, that happens. When it does happen, when we are persuaded when we ought not to be, that?s an opportunity to get feedback about how we think, and to learn how to think even better.

When information is presented non-persuasively, I suppose a case could be made that because it is not compelling, we don?t have to think about it. The idea, I suppose, is that non-persuasive communication is easier on our busy and pitiful little minds. But that?s just whack.

Our challenge in the modern world is pay attention when the professional persuaders are racing to and fro seeking leverage to use in our cultural connections. So whenever communication takes place between people, whether it?s a conversation, a meeting, a radio spot or television ad, the responsibility for our choices falls squarely where it belongs, on ourselves.

The use of persuasive communication has the goal of influencing attitudes. I find nothing inherently wrong with the idea of people seeking to influence each other. Indeed, I think that?s how it should be, because an idea presented non- persuasively has little chance at influence, no matter its worth. So persuasive skill is a necessary tool for parents, managers, service providers and a whole host of others trying to make a positive difference.

Wise parents persuade their children to think for themselves, so they will be able to protect themselves from peer pressure and other coercive influences. Wise business owners persuade customers to use their system, product or service as it is intended, in order to build loyalty and prevent problems. And wise managers learn everything possible about what motivates employees and teams in order to engage, empower and employ the best those people have to offer.

A non-persuasive person can cripple an enterprise, sow the seeds of a revolt, throw sand in the gears of progress.

I think it a valuable endeavor for you to improve your persuasive skills, since without persuasive ability, you may have the solution to a problem yet the problem persists; the answer to a question, yet the question goes unanswered; a means to advance, but no progress is made.

Admittedly, people are all too often more emotional than thoughtful in their responses to the signals of persuasion. Yet for this very reason, when hope requires persuasion, without it there is no hope.

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Persuasion in society has been existent since the very first relationships were built. Persuasion has had a huge role in forming groups and developing collective ideas and attitudes. Its role will continue to influence future societies, as well, based on the united understanding of individuals. Persuasion in society can make or break a group, so you need to know what people want.

Social Influence

Persuasion in society is a vital part of human life. People have been guided by others throughout centuries through persuasive attitudes, actions, signs, and thoughts. Basically, individuals in a given group will be persuaded if they feel change will be for the entire group’s advantage. You may be familiar with utilitarianism and how the advantages and disadvantages of one person can significantly affect the entire group as a whole.

The same goes with persuasion, in the sense that if you are able to show inequity, people will mostly adhere to a problem-solving means, instead of being forced into deciding.

Weapons of Influence in Society

All weapons of influence can be applied to modern society. Persuasion in society still requires a variety of strategies, techniques, and approaches, especially since you are dealing with several people at a time. This may make it harder for you because it is very likely for different individuals in a society to have varying perceptions and views.

The most common is authority, wherein people are influenced by those they look up to, like leaders, heroes, and government figures. Social proof is another, where people follow what others in the same group are doing or thinking. Liking is when people easily get persuaded if they see things attractive to them or are to their advantage.

Scarcity is when people adhere to influence if it seems rare or unique. There is also reciprocation, in which individuals will allow themselves to be persuaded to return a favor or end suffering. Commitment and consistency is an honored agreement that may initially come with a motivator.

Persuasion in society acts in a way that lets individuals comply with the so-called standards of the group they belong to. They are more likely to be persuaded if they find benefits and improvement in their environment, which makes them feel useful and vital to their community. This greatly gives them a sense of security, decisiveness, and belongingness.

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However, experts would have us believe even ordinary individuals can learn to raise their sense of self-identity in the social context with a few simple exercises – we learn about these, here!

That man is a social animal is a fact we have been oft reminded of, but how far can he learn to develop skills and character traits to enable a more harmonious and healthy living standard as a useful member of society is what we can learn – for our own good and for the greater good of mankind, too is a question we need to answer – and do answer, right here, for our readers! So, stick around to find the answers to what are options for developing our self-identities in context to society and if there are actually workable solutions for this issue and also learn the importance of man’s need to build on a sense of motivation, high energy and ideals in order to be a worthy and contributing member of a civil, peaceful and harmonious society.

First, the good news: yes, there are proven methods available for developing our identity as responsible, happy and useful members of a social framework. These options can be followed as a guru-mantra if you are lucky enough to find a guide for yourself; but if not, don’t despair – that’s exactly what we are here for – to guide and direct your thought processes so that once you understand the value of the pattern of a certain higher consciousness needed to develop society and your sense of self both, you can expect a consistent self-development, even while living in same body. This is because there will a new sense of motivation, renewed vigor and enthusiasm to deal with challenges as opportunities – not obstacles – and thus you will be empowered (due to the change in attitude brought about by gaining insight and brighter perspectives that benefit others apart from yourself) to build and sustain life-nourishing skills that also develop your society!!

This can be achieved in many different ways that exclude stress, by doing away with negative people and situations and also experiences that mar your positive perspectives: for example, when something bad happens to you, keep the lesson but throw away the experience because unnecessarily mulling over things that worry you or pull you down will only affect your capacity for joy and make you give up efforts to better your life.

For this reason, eliminating factors that cause stress is essential to avoid becoming mentally unhealthy or physically sick, which restricts personal growth and development. So, cultivate a positive attitude, stay focused on the good work at hand, control your reactions to negative situations (don’t go along with them) and opt for positive reinforcement of self development skills e.g. meditation, regular exercise, balanced diet and taking up fulfilling hobbies. Read, play, educate yourself over the Internet or public library resources and once you find what works for you best – stick to it and you will find your self identity in society improving remarkably!

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Why does man rebel against norms that have been there for ages and accepted as being reliable for the greater good of all? What stops him from discovering his real worth? How can he contribute to a better society and thus a better individual self? Answers to these and similar questions are found in understanding and applying the knowledge of the self in the social context i.e. self and society, which is possible to gain an insight into when one takes the time to learn and understand how to discover their own identity.

Man being a social animal needs to live in society in a certain way so that he makes his own place (also called carving a niche), can develop worthwhile relations with other human beings while living alongside them in a growing, peaceful and harmonious societal frame-work and for this reason, people need to understand each other as well as their own needs. When they fail to understand either their own needs or that of others and respect ceases to exist between them due to lack of understanding or communications, their real inner selves, purpose of their lives and their identity of self in society undergoes a negative change. This affects man’s perception and handling of his relation with his inner self as well as his relationship with society with regard to his sense of self-identity.

Scientists, sociologists and psychologists believe that each individual has 3 distinctive sides to the personality: an outer self that is projected to the world, an inner self that is hidden deep inside him and a mirror or perceived self (how he believes himself to be). When there is a conflict of realities between these 3 core aspects of a person, there is a sense of loss and confusion in the person and subsequently his dealings with society at large.

What then is most frequently known to happen is that the individual in such cases experiences a sad loss of self-identity as related to his presence in the society, which may or may not be acknowledged the way he hopes it will and thus, his path of self-development may be temporarily blocked! We say temporarily because a person also has the ability within himself to re-invent himself after studying weaknesses and strengths, working towards building a healthy sense of self-esteem through various methods such as self-talk and other higher consciousness practices so that his deceptive public self is overcome with a sense of truth and the inner, scared self, gets a chance to develop into a honest personality that he is not afraid to show – warts and all – to the outside world. With this sense of awareness, the individual can hope to find a better balance within himself and thus, in society as the sense of true energy and motivation to do right will exist in his life, bringing good things to light for him.

This is the desirable end to leading a happy, balanced and harmonious life within society as a contributing member of a value-generating society and ensuring the individual stays in touch with his inner self and his real identity always.

By: Abhishek Agarwal

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Sociologists and scientists studying the phenomenon of man living in society agree that man is essentially a social animal: he cannot live in isolation for long and needs to interact with others like himself in order to not only survive, but to develop. This development, when guided only by motives of self-interest and progress will have limited success whereas if man is guided by higher interests, such as the greater good of all, he is likely to experience better results for the world he lives in as well as himself. This is the ends towards which man should ideally strive, after having understood his relation to the society and its norms.

Not all these things always work out by themselves the way the individual hopes they will as other factors may be at play here, too, such as the way negativity affects our fragile human souls e.g. the emotional aspects in us humans are influenced greatly by negative feelings, doubts and remarks that dishonest persons may use for their gain and these get stored in the mind’s subliminal compartment only to revive again when we least need them to.

This kind of storing of negative thoughts and concepts in the subconscious mind is unhealthy for personal growth or public good as these send messages of ‘unworthiness’ to us, which we can do without when looking for answers to questions such as our role in society, our duty towards society and not simply our rights as a society member!

To overcome the negativity aspect of what our sub-conscious mind stores, it is necessary for the intelligent and aware individual to always keep a track of the bigger picture and not limit his view. One way of ensuring the negatives do not take over the positive views of the mind is to learn self-talk and subliminal learning practices so that success is never more than a trained, disciplined and progressive thought process away.

Another way to ban the mind from thinking or acting out negative thoughts is to eat right to think right; combine balanced, nutritive and light meals with regular physical exercise in fresh air and you have the fool-proof mantra for a healthier self-identity goal by ensuring all round development of self and thus, prove to be an asset to society – by being your best!!

Now, it may be troubling you how you can keep this constant. However, it is not that difficult to attain – these life-goals towards discovering your self-identity and improving it to become a better fit in society. All you have to do is just ensure you balance out each right with a reward i.e. achieve a goal and give yourself the satisfaction of having reached there with a little something to boost your morale. E.g. for sticking to a weight loss goal, buy yourself a new outfit, for keeping your temper in control, buy some soothing new music CD and you will find a new you in the same society, but made more beautiful as you react positively to it. Start today – and find the best You!

By: Abhishek Agarwal

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